I have been asked this question, in many ways from friends, from clients, and from family members. And my answer always comes down to a version of these things I know to be true. The thing is you can go around and around this, but to me if you're asking the question I'm willing to bet you already know the answer.
was speaking to a friend the other day who is a divorced single mom. She was really stuck in the story of how unfair her life had played out because she didn’t have a partner to share it with. My heart went out to her for the loneliness piece, but at the same time I saw how attached she was to this picture she had created in her mind. That it would bring her, the sort of, “answers to her prayers”. When we become so fixated on how that one thing will help us solve all our wants and desires, we tend to lose sight of who we really are in the process.