Whether you read on a Kindle or an Ipad, it doesn't matter. For the most part, I truly enjoy the feeling of touching the pages and holding a book in my hands. I was recently asked by a good friend, do you really read all those books? And the truth is, I read about 85-95% of the books. I tend to skim over parts that aren't resonating with me in that moment. But, that doesn't mean I won't hit them up later at some point when I feel called to that book again. I get the meat of the book within the first couple of days and if it's really hitting home for me, I invest a night or two to really absorb it. I'm also a fast reader, so that does help.
There’s a misnomer out there about how if you make “everything perfect”, you will somehow succeed. If you have the right education or come from the right family. If you take the right course or just follow the right person on social media, your life can be just as perfect as theirs. Just like the lie of social media on an Instagram or Facebook feed. This is the "Martha Stewart syndrome" (before we all found out she wasn’t perfect and went to jail).
You have a say in how people treat you.
Whew! Ok there I said it. I find it disturbing how people just "take it” from other people who are in charge or have some authority. Recently, I was speaking with a dear friend of mine who was telling me how her boss was just going off on her, about the way she was teaching her class. Being extremely critical of her technique and style. The ironic thing was, she hadn’t received any complaints that she knew of; it was just that this boss had decided she wasn’t doing it her way and therefore, she wasn’t doing it well. Now, I understand if you have a mission and a clear path that you have decided is the way to share that message, than great! However, the delivery of that message was decidedly critical and meant to put her way down. When I pressed my friend to see what her response was, she said she just listened. But the distraught tone in her voice told me it was more than that. She had taken what she had said to be truth, to an extent. She had taken on the insults and now had to process it out.
The other day I had this amazing experience, I was in the grocery store and the cashier was all dressed up for the holidays. She was so festive and fun! She had her reindeer headband on and her “ugly” christmas sweater. She was trying to get customers to buy a gift card from her…so she sheepishly asked if I would buy one. I really didn’t want to. But, I thought she was so festive I felt I had to participate in the spirit of it. So I said, “Sure! Why not?” She was so happy and thankful. Her face lit up like a lightbulb and she chattered on about how she was so happy and appreciative because now her boss couldn’t get mad at her. Which led to us conversing with the woman behind us, who also conceded to buying a gift card! Well, she danced around and proudly announced to her co-worker she had 2 gift cards sold!! I left there feeling happy, excited, and energized from the exchange.
Coincidentally, the next day Lady Gaga was featured on the Today Show (read more in the link) talking about how important kindness towards others is in our world. And I could see how it had impacted her…how her kindness actually moved something inside of her.
When we show kindness towards others, we are shifting the energy of the other person and ultimately ourselves. It’s an exchange of energy that happens. You give something towards someone else (the energy moves out) and then they receive it and take it (the energy moves in). This energy gets moved around in their body and comes back out thru a thank you, a smile, or a little dance like the woman did for me. Moving the energy back to me (the energy comes back in). This is why it feels so good when you are kind to others. Kindness Matters.
This is also why it’s so important to be a good receiver as well! Taking the energy in from the gift of kindness almost has to happen in order for the energy to go back to the original person. When you reject another’s offering of kindness be it a phone call, a text, or a gift of some sort. When you push it away, you push the energy back to that person. But ,when you truly receive that energy and take it in, you are able to give some energy back out into the world. Whether it’s a hello as you pass by someone in the line at Starbucks or helping to hold a door open and you receive by saying thank you. When that energy has moved the other person, it then is reflected back to you. You are then given an exchange of energy. A gift of what happened to that person because of your kindness, comes back to you. You moved that person in some way, you made their day, or their moment. You affected them and you affected yourself. This is why when you are kind to others you are actually being kind to yourself. As it becomes more a part of your everyday life, you will ALSO show kindness to yourSELF. If tasks don't get done, or things don't work out like you had planned...the kindness will show up for you. From you.
Kindness towards others is really a reflection of the kindness you have for yourself. ~My Empowered Bliss
Basically, showing kindness to others really does spread around. It spreads around to the person you touched and all the people they know. And it also spreads back to you helping you be just a little kinder to yourself.
The Feminine Divine Gift
I keep hearing people mention the feminine energy is making it’s way into the psyche of the world. It sure does not seem like that if you watch the news, especially right now. However, it’s apparent we need more of this energy to penetrate our world and help give perspective. It’s the yin energy in Chinese medicine, which is to say the more reflective, introspective, and creative. In Hinduism, the sanskrit word is Shakti (one my favorite words) and it means “power” or “empowerment” and "represents the dynamic forces that are thought to move through the entire universe. Shakti is the concept or personification of divine feminine creative power”, according to Wikipedia. And how fortunate are we to have a choice…at all times…whether or not we want to invite this into our lives.
I lived my life as a go-getter, success driven; plan, act and do. I just always knew how to do it…and yet looking back now I see this fabric had been spun for me. Society has a loud message that you have to be goal & task-oriented. Driven and overworked in order to appear successful. But there is a balance to this. When I started to turn inwards and get in touch with what that inner voice wanted to say, it was capable of so much more than what could only scratch the surface of the overdrive. In my practice, I am constantly teaching the importance of balance and how we must make that a priority in our lives. It’s the balance of work and play, of study and mindfulness, and exercise and relaxation. The yin and yang, they need each other to exist and one cannot exist without the other. So, it's not to say dump the baby out with the bath water. But rather, how can you begin to integrate the feminine divine energy into your day, everyday. What creativity will ignite because you listened to the silence. In the silence, there is a wealth of knowledge just waiting for you to tap into.
Connecting to your inner world, thru journaling, meditation, acupuncture, yoga, all are forms that get you to remember that part of you. The part you were born with that reminds you of your soul’s purpose. Living a purposeful life creates an awareness to all your potential. Creating a mindfulness practice can start the change of your life. Awareness is the key to bring change. Live on Purpose and see what you are really made of!
I want to hear what you are doing to live on purpose! Do you have a practice you do everyday that connects you inwards? What are some tools you could share with others? I love hearing from you!! Use the comment section below.