There’s a misnomer out there about how if you make “everything perfect”, you will somehow succeed. If you have the right education or come from the right family. If you take the right course or just follow the right person on social media, your life can be just as perfect as theirs. Just like the lie of social media on an Instagram or Facebook feed. This is the "Martha Stewart syndrome" (before we all found out she wasn’t perfect and went to jail).
Being a Mom of 3 kids, I know it’s so easy to get caught up in all the responsibilities we have to deal with. Running our kids lives and our own lives leaves little room for little else. It's so easy to get caught up in the hectic and rushed part of our lives. How can you possibly make time for anything else?! But, we can make play a priority and weave into our day without much effort. We can make it “work for us” when we reframe what it does for us.
When disasters like this strike, or any world event that we feel like we have no control over the impact of what is happening. It can often create fear, stress, and overwhelm. It’s so easy to go into that space of feeling like the world is coming to an end and there’s nothing we can do about it. Except, we can flip that perspective and come from a place of strength, of empowerment, and contribution. I wanted to offer a list of some the ways you can help.
was speaking to a friend the other day who is a divorced single mom. She was really stuck in the story of how unfair her life had played out because she didn’t have a partner to share it with. My heart went out to her for the loneliness piece, but at the same time I saw how attached she was to this picture she had created in her mind. That it would bring her, the sort of, “answers to her prayers”. When we become so fixated on how that one thing will help us solve all our wants and desires, we tend to lose sight of who we really are in the process.
You love your friends and their friendships mean the world to you. You would do anything for them and they for you. That is until, their kid and your kid don’t get along. It’s the worst feeling because you love this person, but you may not always like how their kids act. Each parent, parents differently, and often times your way doesn’t match their way when it comes to the children. You may let your kids eat sugar cereals and they think that’s poison.
You’ve heard the phrase “ It’s not the destination, it’s about the Journey”. I’ve heard it, you’ve heard it but what does it really mean?
I recently heard a podcast from one of my mentors, Melissa Ambrosini, where she interviewed Jack Canfield-an influencer for me for sure (most famously known for the Chicken Soup for the Soul series). You can hear the full Podcast here. It was like a lightening bolt hit me and for the first time, I got that message in a whole new way.