How to have a self-care revolution
“How you show up for Loving YourSelf, is how you show up to receive love.” ~Michelle G.
This being February, I thought it was pertinent to bring up the topic of Self-care, which is really to say Self-Love. We are taught that others should love us in a particular way and most of the time we expect that they should know what that looks like. According to Gary Chapman, in The 5 Love Languages-we receive love in 5 different ways:
Showering with gifts.
In conversations thru words of affirmation.
Acts of Service
But, you really need to start with yourSelf FIRST. How you show up for loving yourSelf is how you show up for love. According to the Buddha, when we learn how to love ourselves first, we are then capable of receiving that love from the outside. Maybe you don’t feel Love because you aren’t really Loving to your Self. As a mother of 3 children, I know you can easily put your needs on the back burner, because here are 3 young souls who need your assistance. I get it! But, you can do it in a non-selfish way that not only opens you to love, but actually empowers and strengthens you.
So start with asking yourself a few questions.
Do you push your needs in the back of the corner, or move it aside as soon as someone else needs something?
Are your needs first or last?
Do you find yourself feeling sorry for yourself because no one takes care of YOU?
What’s 1 thing you are willing to do differently for this month for your Self-Care?
Be open to just changing one part of what you do in the morning. If it’s not possible to get up earlier, because the thought of that alarm clock going off any earlier may make your ears explode, than do it in the car ride to work. After carpool with the kids. Right before you hop in line at Starbucks. But change ONE thing that is just for you!
If you feel like you’d like to make more healthy food choices- cut out 1 thing like gluten or sugar. Just 1 of those food changes will have massive improvements on your health. And you’ll be loving that your making a healthy choice for your hot new Bod you’re trying to shape up!
reach out and Connect with a friend
Call that person you’ve been wanting to see and make a lunch plan! You’ll connect with a friend, you’ll have some interaction and you’ll feel happy. I see too many women and men, for that matter, who stand on invitation or “hide” in their daily to-do’s and don’t make the effort to reach out. And then they wonder why they feel loneliness. If you want to take a deeper dive into what it really means to do Self-care, the Self-Care Mastery PlayBook has more exercises for you.
Create some stillness in your life and start meditating. I know, you’ve heard me say it before, but guess what? I’m going to keep saying it because the shit works! You can download any of my Free Meditations to get you started. And just for more knowledge check out what a Harvard Study just found out. Oh yeah, that’s right, even Harvard is realizing there’s more to this stuff than just woo-woo, lighting incense and sitting in lotus position!! Read Here! I’ll surmise for you, basically they are finding that your gray-matter (which normally shrinks, as we age) is actually increasing in size in the areas that deal with empathy, compassion, memory, and emotional regulation. And, the amygdala (where the flight or flight response is located) actually reduced in size, i.e. this is the area of anxiety, fear and stress. HELLLOOO!! I mean who doesn’t want to love up all on themselves with a little less anxiety? Me-count me in!
My Self-Care Mastery Playbook is the perfect thing to amplify your own Self-Care revolution.
So, my lovely tribe, take the time to think about this today and put some Self-Care in the schedule and let me know what you came up with.
Feeling Fueled with Self-Love,