Starting the new school year for kids is both fun and exciting. You get to see your kids friends after months of maybe not seeing them in real life (IRL). The days of Snapchat and Tiktok make your kids feel like they never left their BFF for the summer.
I have been asked this question, in many ways from friends, from clients, and from family members. And my answer always comes down to a version of these things I know to be true. The thing is you can go around and around this, but to me if you're asking the question I'm willing to bet you already know the answer.
I love to read. Reading about new ideas, ways to reprogram your thoughts and beliefs, how to navigate the world of online marketing, how to run a business like a leader, these are my go-to's. I drink this stuff in and totally nerd out on it.
But in the summer months, I take a mental break. I focus on freedom and just letting someone else carry me away in their world.
One of the comments people say to me is "you seem so confident." And I've heard other people remark about other women, "She has a confidence about her, that's what makes her successful." As women, we hear this a lot and it's true. You do need a certain amount of confidence in order to gain success.
As women, confidence seems more like a luxury item rather than a standard. It's something that is only for the "chosen" and not for the rest of the people. But that's mostly due to our conditioning from our environment. It's not something you are just born with necessarily, but is learned. Many of us have learned to stifle our greatness or make ourselves shrink to be smaller. Because of that we are not taught how to be confident.
I remember the times that I was struggling what seemed like every single day. I would wake up either by a crying child, dog barking at the imaginary mailman in his sleep, or the intermittent snore sounds from my hubby. Either way, it was how life initiated me into my day. Some days it didn't seem to affect me and other days it felt like every last morsel of my energy was being sucked out of me. I would squeeze in a workout, but feel hurried and rushed. I always felt like I was just trying not to let the day become a total shitshow. If it seemed to work out then I considered myself lucky and if not then I would hunker down until I crashed in bed at the end of the day, completely depleted.
You may have heard about Masterminds or may be wondering if this is something only science nerds do! I recently came back from a Mastermind and was really blown away with how connecting with other powerful women was so abundantly supportive to my inner growth. It tapped into a deep part of my soul, so that I could come back home feeling more centered for my family and more passionate about my work.
I'm really struck by the U.S. Government shutdown and the display of arrogance and debauchery going on. But because this is not a forum to discuss the politics side of it, I would rather talk about what has come out of it, so far.
It’s amazing to see the response by people who want to help those that are being affected by this. There have already been many examples of the goodness of people. The humanity of people supporting and helping others. It's actually the one shinning light out of this whole fiasco.
But the I'm shocked by the number of people who are getting the help and feeling ashamed that they have to ask for support! Support because of something they did not ask for or do to themselves.
I recently had a talk with one of my clients. She is a strong and confident woman, especially how she shows up on social media. She inspires people and has written really compelling content. She is vulnerable and raw at times and it can be hard to read, I’ll admit. But with each stretch in her being a woman, she has started to have success.
And that is what has offended people, apparently.
Have you ever gone to conference or an event where you get totally inspired and injected with excitement with all the possibilities your life? Think Tony Robbins or Lewis Howes. (read my post about The Summit of Greatness)