Do you ever have one of those days (hopefully not weeks) where nothing you seem to do works for you? You try one road and you get the door slammed in your face. And because you’re a tenacious person, you keep moving forward and try another avenue. But still the same thing happens, you get no traction. So you keep trying and but no one seems to notice all your efforts to get ahead or do more. Whether it’s your job, your “fresh new attitude”, or just trying to create momentum in your business, all your effort doesn’t seem to have much return. “The wind is knocked out of your sails", you feel dejected, and basically like nothing you do is working.
Do you find yourself ever doubting your greatness and who you were meant to show up as in your world? Yeah! Me too. It's so easy to go to the "comfortable" spot. When life is throwing a lot of "stuff" your way it's easy to let your priorities taking care of yourself fall to the side of a pile of shit that needs to get done. Especially if you have a great excuse like your dog is sick or your kids are throwing up. It's one thing to let it go for a day or two. It's completely another thing to get completely off track. Well, that's what happened to me.
When I was younger, Valentine's Day meant chocolate and roses from whomever I was dating at that time. I was excited to get it especially since it was 5 days before my birthday, so it was an extra special week for me. Now, it's about sharing my love for my kids and the life my husband and I have co-created. I put together some of my favorite things that are a little outside of the typical box and do a great job in saying you're special to me.
Whether you read on a Kindle or an Ipad, it doesn't matter. For the most part, I truly enjoy the feeling of touching the pages and holding a book in my hands. I was recently asked by a good friend, do you really read all those books? And the truth is, I read about 85-95% of the books. I tend to skim over parts that aren't resonating with me in that moment. But, that doesn't mean I won't hit them up later at some point when I feel called to that book again. I get the meat of the book within the first couple of days and if it's really hitting home for me, I invest a night or two to really absorb it. I'm also a fast reader, so that does help.
There’s a misnomer out there about how if you make “everything perfect”, you will somehow succeed. If you have the right education or come from the right family. If you take the right course or just follow the right person on social media, your life can be just as perfect as theirs. Just like the lie of social media on an Instagram or Facebook feed. This is the "Martha Stewart syndrome" (before we all found out she wasn’t perfect and went to jail).
“Don’t take things so personally!” You’ve heard it. I’ve heard it. But, what does that really mean? I’m a sensitive person and when someone wrongs me I feel it. Your mind can go on a whole little tirade of how this person did this or did that.
Being a Mom of 3 kids, I know it’s so easy to get caught up in all the responsibilities we have to deal with. Running our kids lives and our own lives leaves little room for little else. It's so easy to get caught up in the hectic and rushed part of our lives. How can you possibly make time for anything else?! But, we can make play a priority and weave into our day without much effort. We can make it “work for us” when we reframe what it does for us.
... and it's that time of the year where new beginnings happen and old things drop away like the falling leaves you see outside. It's hard to let go sometimes. It's hard to let go of the things we knew and are comfortable with, even when they no longer serve us.
When disasters like this strike, or any world event that we feel like we have no control over the impact of what is happening. It can often create fear, stress, and overwhelm. It’s so easy to go into that space of feeling like the world is coming to an end and there’s nothing we can do about it. Except, we can flip that perspective and come from a place of strength, of empowerment, and contribution. I wanted to offer a list of some the ways you can help.
was speaking to a friend the other day who is a divorced single mom. She was really stuck in the story of how unfair her life had played out because she didn’t have a partner to share it with. My heart went out to her for the loneliness piece, but at the same time I saw how attached she was to this picture she had created in her mind. That it would bring her, the sort of, “answers to her prayers”. When we become so fixated on how that one thing will help us solve all our wants and desires, we tend to lose sight of who we really are in the process.